Of course we do not want to be tied to the stake, but she does not leave us, how is it crazy to say that she has no real power in our lives, that everything is in our thinking? I know it is a cartoonish way of representing the reality that we face every day, but, would not have talked to many people who have tried to help, but they simply refuse to see that the problem lies in how they see the problem? So where lies the power of the stake? The answer is simple: in ourselves uncomfortable it is to admit it. The first step away from the stake. Much has been said, in seminars, audio books and self-help and motivation, a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. That is, we should not focus both on long (and sometimes convoluted) that may be the trip, but the first step and then continue taking steps to come. But what is the first step? Well, I think the answer to that question is cumbersome and paradoxical part of this article. On one hand I like jumping into the fray and say, as I have done in previous sections, it’s all in the decision, which must decide let go of the stake.

But on the other hand, it is undeniable that many times we tied our own choosing. So the dilemma is complicated a little bit, because in the words of Einstein, what we need is to raise our thinking to find a new level, the solution: self-awareness and expand our context. Now, we choose to want to be aware and want to extend our context. To be aware I mean, briefly, to accept personal responsibility for why I’m tied. And as to expand our context, I refer briefly also to learn to see beyond the usual, to see challenges as opportunities not problems, learn to be proactive rather than reactive. So the first step is a conjunction of three elements: 1) decision, because obviously we have to decide on whether or not the other two elements. 2) Self awareness in order to look objectively at our opportunities, assessing our strengths and weaknesses. 3) Expanding the context, learning new habits, learning to raise our thinking level to find creative solutions, dynamic and proactive to the challenges that try to keep us tied to a stake.